And what’s your tolerance for being OUT of your comfort zone?
Hmmmm… When you consider that for most of us, being comfortable means the absence of change…
And that we often cling to what we know, even if what we’re clinging to is Not All That Great…
I’m gonna suggest our tolerance level for change probably isn’t that high!
You’ve more than likely seen a version of this graphic doing the rounds, yeah?
It looks soooo cool and all-knowing, doesn’t it? Almost a little bit smug, even.
HOW ANNOYING IS THAT!?
As someone who’s spent a fair bit of time living outside my comfort zone – and not always voluntarily – I can tell you, sometimes being in that “where the magic happens” circle feels far from magical.
Or so it can seem when you’re in the thick of it!
Yes, stepping outside of what we know is a way we can create transformation and change.
But as humans, we’re wired for finding and retaining safety.
Safety = Comfort.
Comfort = Don’t go changing a thing.
And yet, that safety vs risk thing is meant to be fluid, not static
Sometimes it’s necessary to veer more towards safety, but other times it’s good to take a few risks.
We actually need both safety AND risks to grow and thrive
When we take risks, we develop more capacity for understanding and learning.
Then when we’re in our comfort zone, we can reflect on what we’ve learned and integrate that new knowledge.
Spending ALL our time in our comfort zone, however, is a bit like a house guest that over stays their welcome.
Eventually, life gets a little uncomfortable.
We can end up feeling a little bit squished. Boxed in.
Have you upgraded your comfort zone lately?
From time to time, it’s a good to bring awareness to what you’re saying is okay in your life.
Just because something’s already been allowed into the comfort zone does NOT mean it should stay there!
Often, we’ve chosen to allow unhealthy relationships, behaviors, habits and thought patterns. Right?
For example, do you know anyone who “comfort eats” or smokes/drinks because they’re stressed or worried?
At one point, that might’ve seemed like a good idea. And while old habits might be comfortable on some level, we need to ask ourselves if they’re still serving us.
If not? Then it might be time for a change, yeah?
We can also outgrow our comfort zone!
It’s not just about reviewing what you allow in. You might need to re-design your comfort zone all together!
Because what felt “safe” once upon a time, can suddenly feel “too tight” or limited.
And yet, we rely on the apparent safety of what we know. Even if it no longer really makes us feel safe!
Sometimes, we need to signal to our mind, body and energy system that we’ve got new rules for what’s safe and comfortable PLUS that which truly serves us.
The need to feel safe is important
Don’t get me wrong, it’s good and necessary to feel safe.
But what if we’re staying in an unhealthy relationship/job/situation because it feels safer than going?
And yet we KNOW that’s not quite right…
How do we make the shift?
Leave our apparent comfort zone for something new?
Well, we need options. Other avenues, support and situations that feel safe, before we’re willing to give up what isn’t serving us.
So beating yourself up about things you’d like to change, but can’t because it doesn’t feel safe? That’s not helpful!
Recognise. Gain new Resources. Prepare to Shift.
The first step is shining a light on what’s going on. Seeing things more clearly.
Once you’ve got some clarity around the changes you’d like to make, you need new skills and techniques to support yourself on a day-to-day basis.
This is the crucial step, because it’s always your choice to make changes in your life or not.
No one else can do that for you.
Once you feel like you’re ready, then it will be easy to make the changes you want.
It might still take you some time to really let go of old habits, people or situations. But then, even that will feel easy eventually. You’ll know when the timing is right.
Kinesiology can help you with your comfort zone upgrade!
Kinesiology is in fact, a perfect tool to facilitate and support making changes in your life, whether that’s on the macro or micro level.
So whenever you’re ready to step out of, or even re-design your comfort zone, get in touch!
I’d love to support you to make positive changes in your life.
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based on the Sunshine Coast, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).