Have you ever said to yourself the words…
“It’s my worst nightmare”?
Believe it or not, this is quite common. And at one point, it was a running theme in the clients I was seeing.
They’d come in for a session and at some point, express one of their major fears in life and then utter the words “It’s my worst nightmare”.
Often they’d be talking about something that’d already happened, or was in still in progress. Yikes!
This can include things like: rejection, abandonment, an earthquake, a car accident, or a physical injury. There’s so many possibilities!
The world of “entertainment” often revolves around nightmarish plots, and we go to see them for fun. Or at least some of us do (I don’t any more).
When you have a worst fear, phobia or nightmare, it means you’re giving a lot of time and energy to that possibility
That might be occurring on a subconscious level, but nevertheless! It’s still something that’s taking up your time and energy.
In the same way files take up room on the hard drive of your computer. Which is why it’s always good to have a de-clutter every now and then.
Have you ever wondered why your worst nightmare can feel so scary and so real?
It’s because you’ve already felt into what that situation would be like, and believe it to be a likely outcome.
Which means that as much as you don’t want to have that thing happen, you’re giving that possibility a focus! Doh!
And it’s in this way that you manage to experience exactly what you don’t want
It’s not that you can or should even try to stop feeling fear. Fear is a natural sign post, but it’s not meant to rule your mind.
Which is easy enough to say, but the truth is that no one teaches us about calming our mind, and learning that we’re much more than our thoughts. It’s not a part of our primary, high school or higher education studies.
So it takes time to learn how, but it’s worthwhile.
Because allowing your mind to regularly replay outcomes you don’t want in your life creates attachment to that experience.
Which is NOT something you want, am I right? To feel attached to a negative outcome you fear and also really don’t want?
The good news? This is something you can transform!
It’s good to ask yourself – what’s the payoff in being attached to your worst nightmare? What does this allow you to avoid?
Once you’ve gained awareness around this, you can work on releasing the negative thought pattern.
It does take a little practice – witnessing your thoughts and noticing how your negative thinking shows up.
Once you’ve gained some awareness over what your mind is up to, you can practice training to “switch tracks”: Catch yourself in the pattern you don’t want, and then turn your attention to a more positive one.
There’s so much lightness that’s available when you can give up thinking about your worst nightmare!
|Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based in Melbourne, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world|
Amanda also facilitates the popular Facebook group - Empowerment for Sensitive Peeps - to support all highly sensitive people and emerging empaths.