When it comes to saying what you really mean, how do you find it?
Your answer might vary from easy to difficult, depending on who you’re speaking to and what you have to say. And depending on how safe and comfortable you feel to express potentially conflicting opinions.
And of course, the stakes might be high when it comes to saying what you really think.
Especially when you’ve made a habit of holding back and possibly tolerating circumstances you’re not happy with.
You might be worried about being rejected or offending someone. Or creating drama or a problem when the other party doesn’t perceive that there is one.
Eventually, holding on to your thoughts and feelings instead of sharing your truth can get very uncomfortable for you.
It’s important to honour how you feel, otherwise you risk feeling out of integrity with yourself. And after bottling up how you feel, you might eventually EXPLODE and share your feelings anyway, but in a less than ideal manner.
But how do you change your habit of holding back, to one of speaking out?
It might feel a little tricky at first! Especially if you associate speaking up as dangerous or risky.
You might like to start with a question. Such as
There’s something I’d like to share with you. Are you open to hear what I’m thinking?
This creates a little space for everyone involved. And an opportunity for the other person to say yes or no.
If they say no, that’s okay.
It’s not a rejection of you. And maybe another time they’ll be more open.
If they say yes, you can begin to share. And you can always check in as you speak…
Does that make sense?
I hope this is okay with you?
Conversation skills are something we can always work on and develop.
None of us are perfect when it comes to the art of conversation!
Vishuddha is the Sanskrit word for the throat chakra
When the energy of the throat chakra is blocked – due to stress, trauma or grief – it can be challenging to speak clearly.
But with practice, and healing your fears and concerns around speaking up, you can learn to say what you mean without feeling blocked.
The throat chakra is also connected to the thyroid
When you experience a fright or a shock, it can cause you to inhale sharply. Right into the throat and thyroid!
So many people have thyroid health issues these days.
The most common are two autoimmune conditions – Hashimotos and Graves – which cause under-active and over-active thyroid function respectively.
What you might not be aware of is that the thyroid is considered to be a shock absorber. So it’s one of the places in your body where trauma takes hold.
Unsurprisingly, the metaphysical connections for thyroid issues lead right back to… an inability to speak your truth.
So often the key on an emotional level to unwinding your thyroid related issues is about healing the traumas you’ve been holding on to for far too long.
It helps to investigate and release the reasons why it’s so difficult to speak up, and say what you mean.
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based on the Sunshine Coast, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).