So, even though this is kind of “Self-development 101”, it’s still a good exercise to revisit.
Especially if you’re prone to that old chestnut, negative self-talk. Lately it’s been a bit of a theme in the clinic!
Clients come in to a session and say things like…
- “Oh you must look at me and think I’m a mess” (Note: I absolutely don’t!)
- “My body is a disaster” (or maybe it’s a champ for everything it does!)
- “Well I know now that I can’t ever expect to fit in anywhere I work” (I’m calling BS on that!)
Sometimes negative self talk is so deeply ingrained in how you think about yourself that you don’t even notice just how much you trash talk the most important person in your life – YOU!
Personally I experienced many years of living with a negative inner dialogue, so I know exactly what it’s like.
If you’re finding it difficult to “change tracks” to a more positive inner story, then it pays to practice speaking well of yourself on the daily.
For example if you notice that you’re highly self-critical and always focus on what you think you’ve done wrong, it’s useful to practice reminding yourself of reasons why you’re PROUD of yourself instead.
If you can’t immediately think of something, sit with it. And start small.
Such as…I’m proud of myself for brushing my teeth. Or drinking plenty of water. Or walking to work.
Whatever it is, say it out loud and/or write it down
Express these stories! After all the negative stories get plenty of air time, so why not the positive ones?
And allow yourself to feel positive and proud of your actions, really feel it in your body.
Try it out for a week or two and see how you go!
Much love,
