If your path has always felt challenging, hard, or less than gentle…it doesn’t have to stay that way.
I often find this pattern cropping up for my clients – feeling like we have to do EVERYTHING the hard way, in order for it to feel like we’ve really achieved something. That it was worth it.
BUT… our lessons don’t have to be *that* hard
Sure, some things in life are more challenging than others. However, we don’t have to expect things to be difficult.
To self-identify with the idea that: “My life lessons are always tough, it’s the only way that I can learn”.
Wow. Really? But I’ll let you in on a secret… that used to be one of my beliefs!
Personally, I spent a lot of my life doing things the hard way.
Even my healing processes…
Doing hard yards instead of allowing it all to be easier and more supported.
For example: having a Kinesiology session might trigger a healing crisis but instead of taking actions to soothe my body’s response, I’d attempt to white knuckle it. 🙄
Ever done that?!
Mostly we do it because we don’t know any other way. We never learned how. Until we do.
Ask yourself this…what stories do you tell yourself about “how life is”? Your version of the truth of reality.
It might include stories like…
Oh that’s just how it is…(oh really, is it?)
It’s ALWAYS been that way…(doesn’t mean it has to always BE that way in future)
The more we reinforce the “truth” of our stories, the less capable of change we might feel.
Of course, we can only change ourselves, and only if we really want to
Often we don’t even try to create change in our lives until things are extremely not okay.
Which adds stress to the entire process because now, you’re really behind the mark.
There’s a lot more to do from that vantage point.
Which is another way you can make things harder on yourself than necessary.
Changing your expectations of how you respond to and deal with challenges in your life is definitely something you can change!
So…what beliefs about your life do you hold on to that aren’t really true?
Are you willing to check in with yourself or someone else to see if perhaps…things could be different?
Easier? Gentler? Kinder?
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based on the Sunshine Coast, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).