Oddly enough, sometimes clients will apologise for having to share their stories with me… the very wounds, trauma and pain that brought them to my clinic in the first place.
“I know my stuff is heavy”, they’ll say.
They’ll admit they don’t really talk about it with other people in their life, either. As if their suffering is somehow embarrassing (note: it isn’t though!)
And I’ll reply that actually your stuff is less heavy all-round when you’re prepared to talk about it.
Humans are social creatures: we thrive on connection and understanding
Of course, the problem with experiencing traumatic events is that they can cause you to shut down, at a time when you need help and support the most.
(This I know well from my own personal experiences).
However, you aren’t built to be a fortress, holding all of your suffering and grief tightly inside of you
Eventually it all becomes too much for your nervous system, and other key body systems, and can lead to chronic health problems.
That isn’t the way. Even though we still live in a world that predominantly honors thoughts over feelings. Thankfully, the balance is shifting in this respect, because it has to. Our feelings and emotional states are just as important for our wellbeing.
I also like to remind clients that part of my job is absolutely to listen to what’s happened in your life that’s created a physical, mental or emotional imbalance in your health and wellbeing.
Unwinding the stories and and root causes of stress is a part of the healing process.
Generally speaking, clients don’t usually book in for their first session because everything is great! 😉
Life being great tends to be an outcome of doing the necessary investigation and healing work required. I always love hearing those stories!
But that’s not where people are at when they first book an appointment.
So I tell them that it’s all fine and normal
That I’ve heard many many stories over the years. And that of course, I’ve my own stories, too.
Because we’re all human, and part of this experience is that we aren’t perfect. None of us. Our vulnerability, realness and truth are an asset and a gift.
It’s okay to share your load of “stuff”. Whatever is worrying you, creating havoc or stress.
Always remember: It’s a healthy and courageous act to allow others in to support you.
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based on the Sunshine Coast, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).