At first, it seems like a simple question…
Do you trust yourself?
You might be surprised to discover that when I ask people this question, the answer is often “NO!”, “maybe”, or “sometimes”.
I asked around about this recently, just to confirm my own reflections and what I see in my clinic. And what I’ve learned is that even if you trust yourself in general, you mightn’t when it comes to…
- Saying no (boundaries!)
- Your health and/or willpower
- Your intuition
- Your physical body
It seems that trusting yourself can be a complex issue.
So you over there, thinking you’re the only one? You’re definitely not alone.
5 reasons we don’t trust ourselves!
- We’re actually taught to think other people know more than we do – such as our parents, doctors (“the doctor knows best”), dentists, accountants etc.
- So we’ve learned via osmosis to give away our ability to know best for ourselves! Someone else will have the answers, right?
- In school we learn maths, English, art, physical education etc.
We’re NOT taught the importance of emotions, our gut instincts and psychic gifts during our formative years.
- So we learn to shut those parts of ourselves down.
Because the emphasis on learning is mostly about the logic mind, not the heart or intuition.
- As a result, we assume it’s not safe to trust our instincts! Doh!
Put yourself in your own circle of trust
It’s kind of ironic, isn’t it? That it can be such a journey learning to trust ourselves!
Because as children we initially had trust in everything. Including our ability to learn, grow and master new skills.
For example: As a kid I remember very clearly wanting to learn how to do the splits, handstands, cartwheels and back bends (I learned them all!). Even when I broke my arm (attempting a run up, one-handed cartwheel!), I didn’t stop acting like a monkey. I even mastered doing handstands against the wall in my plaster cast!
But… we get older and we learn to second-guess ourselves. Place our faith in others.
You’re told you’re just a kid and you don’t know anything yet! We believe the big grown up people because we haven’t been here as long as them.
What would it be like to trust yourself on all levels?
- How would it feel to trust your instincts, feelings and ideas, no matter what?
- To 100% BELIEVE in the wisdom of your body, intuition and feelings?
- Who would you be if you considered yourself an A1 level guide in your life?
- What super-powers do you feel you’d gain by having rock-solid faith in yourself at all times?
Here’s some self-trust tips
- Notice every time your instincts are correct!
- Regardless of whether you followed through on your gut instinct or not, give yourself a high five for noticing
- The next time your instincts are sending you a message, pay more attention (and maybe give yourself a treat!)
- Spend time writing/journaling or meditating, to create space for your mind to hear your intuition more clearly
- Remember that your intuition is connected to your inner child! So the more care and love you show to your intuition, the more you’re nurturing your inner child.
- Create doable rituals that honour YOU (and your inner child), so that you know you’ve got your own back
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based on the Sunshine Coast, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).