Oh the pain of feeling unchosen! Or ignored, rejected, unwanted, abandoned, and unloved.
These words can invoke feelings as sharp as razor blades!
If you allow them, they can absolutely destroy your sense of value and belonging in the world.
Recently I was talking to a client about courage
And how courage isn’t just about being brave and strong.
For, there are things we need to feel brave and strong.
Courage is just as much about feeling connected, and that your back is covered.
Courage also asks us to both reach out to others, and inwards to our very core. To our soul.
In order to connect with yourself, you also need to choose yourself
So many of us appear to be waiting to be chosen. You know, by a Special Someone.
In the absence of that, we at least want to feel chosen by family and friends.
However what if you have none of the above?
What if the universe appears to be serving up round after round of Nope, Not You! Suck it!
What you can do is begin learning to choose YOU
Put yourself first. Be your own priority. Consider your own needs above others.
Not to the exclusion of others of course!
But I’d say that most people who don’t choose themselves (which is gonna be a LOT of folks!), are very much conditioned to put everyone else first, anyway.
So you could do with an intensive in choosing yourself. An “I Choose Myself Bootcamp”, if you like.
Choosing yourself has a lot to do with getting to know yourself. Your likes, dislikes and learning to speak up for yourself well before you feel compromised.
It’s self-love, self-care, respect and dignity.
It also has to do with that inner connection… all the way back to Source!
Your essence nature. Your own divinity.
Working with these aspects of yourself will help you to learn just how not alone you are. And how VERY chosen you are, despite appearances in your human life.
Then? You can learn to generate that for yourself, by always choosing and honouring your emotions, rights and interests first.
That way, you are ALWAYS chosen, no matter what.
And damn if that isn’t one of the best things you can do for yourself, ever!
Repeat after me… I Choose Myself!
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based on the Sunshine Coast, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).