Untrained empaths are almost always people pleasers
This often means you’d do anything for anyone else, but rarely would you extend yourself the same courtesy.
I mean, if you’re all about pleasing people…aren’t you also a person? Why/how did you get left out of the concept of pleasing people?
Without a doubt, people pleasing is linked to boundary issues
We might’ve been taught that it’s better to do things for others than ourselves. That it’s selfish to receive, and much more acceptable to give.
It’s a nice idea in theory.
Except… people pleasers tend to run on empty because they give til it hurts.
They’ve never learned that saying no is acceptable, or that it’s an act of self-compassion.
And for empaths who’ve never learned how to shut down what they feel from the world… it can be an act of survival to make the world around you feel happier, so that what you’re feeling is more pleasant.
BUT this is not the only way. Nor is it the best way!
Here’s some other options
- Learning good boundaries
- Developing enough respect for yourself to say no
- Learning to keep tabs on your own energy levels
- Finding ways to balance your self-care with caring for others
Being Sensitive 101 online program
I’m running an online program for empaths and highly sensitive people starting 5th October 2020.
Unlearning people pleasing is one of the many topics we’ll be working with during the course. Boundaries is another! Plus a whole lot more.
Early bird rates apply until 27th September.FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THE PROGRAM
I’d love to have you join us if this feels like it’s right for you!
Ambha Amanda Roberts is a Kinesiologist, Intuitive Healer, educator and facilitator based in Mullumbimby, Australia. She offers Kinesiology sessions both in-person and via Skype/Zoom all over the world.
Ambha Amanda is the co-creator of Adventures of Staria, which includes a series of Staria cards, and an upcoming book for children (including inner children).